rejuvenate the mind and heal the soul

meditation 🧘‍♀️ helps in healing your inner body and noticing how you are feeling when stressed/anxious.

Whether it is about work or any other negative thoughts the body usually gets mentally exhausted and the pain manifests physically. From the neck and shoulders being stiff to your chest feeling heavy and light headed it all suddenly hurts. The mental exhaustion making the physical body sick.

something that generally helps me (helped me) is

1. Noticing the thoughts when it starts to manifest physically 2. Find myslef a quite place in my room or any place your comfortable in with no distraction. 3. Speak out your thoughts/sensation eg. I am noticing that my neck feels tight and I am nauseous, pairing with anxiety and stress. 4. Now sit comfortably grounded to the floor preferably. (play mediation music) 5. Take a deep breath inhale and exhale while you body scan every part of your body starting from the toes until your neck. 6. Start slow like 3 minutes and eventually build up on the time you mediate so it has greater effects.

you will eventually notice that your body now feels relaxed and your mind is calm. Notice that the inflow of all those stressful sensations and negative emotions are reduced and are passing by you. Your body is now back in rhythm and you’re doing just fine ♡

mediation is difficult for those who find it difficult to sit in one place without getting distracted, but with time and starting with the least time like 3 to 5mins a day, can help you improve your mental state.

Here are some affirmations as well to help you:)

I AM LOVED

I AM BEAUTIFUL

I AM MENTALLY HAPPY

I DESERVE HAPPINESS

I AM FOCUSED

I AM CAPABLE OF DOING ANYTHING WHEN I PUT MY MIND TOO IT

im writing this based on personal experiences and I hope these points help you too 🙂 LOVE AL ♡

Summoning Light

darkness, gloom, depression, anxiety all forms of darkness that feed on our minds and our happiness is fading away as the darkness consumes it.

Let’s summon the light, summon happiness, bloom, bliss and positivity, let’s summon the rainbow to light us up, burn the negativity away.
For then our minds will be free of the captivity of doom -Al

Get to know about the LGBTQ+ community with me

Hello members of society,

I am Allyanza Kuruvilla and this is a small survey/personal research that I have worked on and compiled. As we all know and are aware off society is still adjusting to members of the lgbtq+ community and amongst these people we have our Ally’s that support us without being queer themselves, and then there is the hate group, the homophobic people. The homophobic people not only include our friends, uncles, aunts but in*TW* some families, and the children experience a living hell, no one should ever go through that.

In order to know more about the life of my fellow queer people and the support of Ally’s I have reached out to them and begun a survey and an interview discussion. The results and people I managed to get to participate in this was amazing. The questions I’ve asked them were as follows: –

LGBTQ+

1) what did you feel when you first realized you’re not straight

2) how accepting were the ones that you came out too

3) what are your view points to society today on the LGBTQ+

Ally

1) How did you first react when a friend/ family member came out to you as LGBTQ+

2) what was your way of supporting them, and what are your views on the LGBTQ community and its union with society.

The responses to these questions are as follows and I quote them from what the people have sent me, no addition of my own wording.

Lisa Nazareth (LGBTQ+)

Her response to question 3 was the following-à Okay so what I have to say is, I know people think times are changing and things are getting better, and maybe they are slightly, but that doesnt stop me getting harassed in public parks, etc for just sitting there with a girlfriend (by kids and adults alike), it doesn’t stop all the fetishism we face, especially from cishet people, nor does it stop the invasive questions about our sexual lives that cishet people think they have the right to question. I’ve seen friends who claim they support me deadname and misgender a friend in front of my face AFTER I corrected them, twice.

I think society needs to do better and be better and realize that we face a LOT of shit on a daily basis just for existing, and i think we need to relearn empathy and kindness and understanding. Stop treating queer people like they’re objects, or infants, or anything else. Just treat us like humans who deserve decency, because we do.

Also society needs to stop dabbling in queer politics cause no, cishet ally’s cannot claim that the A stands for ally and not agender/aro/ace, etc i’ve heard straight people police my about my labels so often when I know the community and myself way more than they do, but they think they have a say in it cause they’re an ally (they were homophobic to me)

We just need to be more accepting and let people be what they want to be, and cishet people, please ,PLEASE call out transphobic or queerphobic jokes cause when we do it we aren’t taken seriously at all. Stop breeding a culture of hate

And to question 1 and 2 in order to summarize her response because it was a whole discussion, she didn’t get a chance to come out officially to her parents, because her mom figured she had a girlfriend and the whole process was subtle and that was more or less it. She is out and proud, her friends who know she is queer is supportive, she doesn’t like labels cause people stick that to you for life, she is saying thing from her view point. And she also stated and an identity can be fluid.

Yashvi. (LGBTQ+):

I felt pretty normal and okay and shy and blush-y when I accepted to myself, it was when I told my then best friend that I like girls that things got messy and I started feeling that it was something not okay with it

That also explains your second question, people around me at that point were young and too immature to understand that me liking girls is vvv normal, but now it’s much better

Society today is definitely evolving over time but it still has it’s walls high up when it comes to making it normal it’s definitely not inclusive of the community and it’s really difficult to navigate our space in here

anonymous (LGBTQ+)

I felt quite normal and natural, at ease honestly. because for me it felt like I was looking beyond gender and just looking at the person itself.

 I think it’s becoming the safe space that it was always meant to be, I’m glad that it’s become as welcoming and spectrum as it is. (society)

 Alisha D’souza (Ally) – 1) I actually did not react in a certain way but i told her that i am happy for her and i thanked her for believing in me and sharing this wimme and then to celebrate we went out for lunch!!😂

2) my way of supporting them would be to always stand for them and to always soeak up about homophobia. My views on the LGBTQ+ community and its union with the society would be that the LGBTQ+ community makes our society colourful and we as the members of the society should make his world a better place for them!!

Cindy (Ally) –

Okay so I would firstly tell them that whatever they’re feeling and have been feeling is valid and I support them. I shall ask them their pronouns and not try to pry and ask more questions and make them feel uncomfortable and regret coming out to me. I’d promise not to out them to anyone because that’s not my place to do so. I’d basically support them and let them know that nothing between us changes. You are still the same person to me irrespective of your sexuality. Yeah that’s how I’d try to be a good ally.

My views on the Indian LGBTQ+ community is that it’s still treated as a taboo and shame by the majority. However, slowly but surely people are becoming more aware and accepting and that’s wonderful to see in my opinion.-

The rest of the responses will be documented on my IGTV on Instagram. @_thefemalehustler_ Stay tuned.

The information above is purely taken from volunteers and not from online sources.

Taking information from people themselves increases validity of the responses and it is subjective matter therefore holding more weightage. As you read you can see that more or less all the ally’s have a similar response towards the LGBTQ+ community.

Note- none of the ally’s were made to sit and discuss with each other as they were all asked individually, therefore all responses recorded are individualistic.  

Everyone’s response has one main highlight, for society to bloom more and accept people of the community with open arms, and treat them equally.

Apart from sexual orientation, people have gender preferences as well (binary/non-binary) and has a pronoun preference. Therefore, when these people come out to you about their pronoun preference we must accept and use the preferred pronouns. J The pronouns used so far are she/her, he/him and they/them.

My fellow members of society reading this, I hope these responses give you a small overlook on various view points from queer and ally people. I pray and hope the world will be a better place in treating everyone equally. Till then take care, stay safe and love everybody just the way you’d want to be loved! >3

A little Christmas Queer Story.

A girl the at age of 14, understood that she was feeling something towards girls, same-sex to be specific. Over the years she understood and verified that the feelings she experienced towards the same sex wasn’t a phase but the feelings she felt were completely valid, she spoke to queer counsellors on a quite so that her Catholic family would not know. Being queer/gay wasn’t something normal to be accepted in a family, where the norm was “straight”. Hence, after years of hiding her sexuality she waited to educate her parents more on same-sex topics, got them to attend seminars at school and college where lgbt+ education was promoted. The girl was afraid to come out to her parents with the  fear of being not accepted and kicked out of the house. To her friend and people of she same community she was comfortable coming out, to everyone else knew her sexuality apart from her parents. She had a girlfriend at the age of 18, they were dating for 2 years now and to her parents the girlfriend was a “bestfriend”, with the years to come and more education her parents were okay with the LGBTQ and poeple being the way they are, cause later even the church accepted the LGBTQ people cause they were the creation of God himself. Now it was time to reveal her sexuality to them. It was Christmas,
the house was cheerful, her “bestfriend” was over with her family and there were carols playing on the Bose speakers, frosted windows, the aroma of cookies in the air, everything was joyous and the atmosphere had a  blanket of love and cheer of the Christmas spirit. It was time, with a huge sigh, just before dinner, she held her” best friends” hand in the kitchen took a deep breath and at the table she said,”mom, dad there’s something I’ve been waiting to say for a long time now, a secret I’ve been holding within. I have to tell you I’m gay.” and then there was silence, and to her suprise her parents took in a good way and said “we love you for who you are, and we are proud of you, your birth in our life is the best  thing to happen to us and we will love and accept you” The girl couldn’t be more blessed and elated t what her ears just heard. This called in for a hug. And the she said, mom my “bestfriend”, is actually my girlfriend and I love her. And the mom said we know. You can’t hide a “bestfriend” from us after all. We wanted you to break it to us. It was a lovely start to our Christmas dinner and both our families bonded and my girlfriend and me were now official to out parents, I couldn’t have ever asked for a better Christmas.

Happy Pride month y’all, don’t feel afraid to be comfortable in your own skin️‍

Morning Adventure

How do you begin your morning? I usually take my dog for a walk or workout, but personally I begun my morning today by going cycling with a friend for an hour. Sometimes it’s better when you’re with a buddy, it’s joyful and fun. The morning is lit up. An empty road, scorching sun, the cool winter morning with breeze brushing against your skin. Below is a lil journey of my friend and me. The sound of the birds in the sky, the sound of your tyres rubbing against the road. It’s all sheer pleasure.

We had an amazing time, and I hope y’all begin your morning great too

In the skin of a stray dog.

I was given birth to on the road, on a small rag cloth. Grew up surrounded by other dogs that looked like gigantic beasts when I first opened my eyes. My tiny pawsies walked and moved around, the only comfort was my mother and my siblings, the ones that pulled my ears, bit my tails and gave me a fun childhood. Growing up on the road is a tough thing, the flashing lights and the loud honks of the vehicles. The hustle-bustle of the daily life, other dominant dogs trying to barge into my territory. Pheww, that’s called survival. Apart from that the struggle to get myself food into my lil roaring tummy, I don’t know where to begin with that. They are a few kind humans that give me food someday we a bowl full and the others maybe a few crunchy biscuits. The other days it’s me trying to live and survive, dogging the fast cars hoping they won’t knock us down or run over us. Everyday we battle the stress factor and all the thoughts that run through our heads and all we wish for are a few belly rubs, pats and a little food.

Sometimes I look at the dogs that walk on the leash and travel in vehicles with their owners, and they smell so nice while we smell like dead rats and garbage. There is jealousy that strikes me at times, as I sit with my paws crossed, hoping one day that will be me. A handsome boy, smelling fresh with my nametag hanging on my collar as I was like a good boy with my hooman. But as fate is I am on the road, gladly not alone but with the other dogs that play with me and a few hoomans that come visit and play

That’s my story, and it is a routine nothing new…nothing very special

sending love and fur dust >3

Adventures

I wrote this, looking at the moon and admiring her beauty.

#moon #beauty #stars #adventure #night #sky #poet #writer

quarantining

We all are aware how quarantine has been treating each an every one of us. Keeping busy at home within the 4 walls either being productive/ working or sleeping all day. However, some people like daily wage workers need to be out of their safe space and earn for their living. The other day I went to the market and met this fisher lady that travels from a far distance, goes out to catch fish at 3/4 in the morning and then by 9 am comes to the market to sell the fish. She does this by taking all the precaution. It amazing to see the effort they are putting in to feed us as well as make an earning for themselves. Putting their lives at risk, isn’t it great to hear that? Quarantine has opened our eyes to multiple things out there. For example- We have learnt to see the essential items and know how much we’ve been spending necessarily. Talking emotionally we know now how many actually care about you. If they call you up or text you, you know that someone is out there caring for you the same way you care about them. This period helps you self ponder, realize and reflect on yourself. Don’t chase anyone, find your own path and keep busy. That is the best thing I feel quarantine has thought me, find new hobbies and explore hidden talents.

Setting Sun

The heavens changed hues as we got closer to dusk,

Pretty skies and no lies,

Sitting in the balcony with your legs stretched,

Enjoying the moment while your life is not wrecked.

Giving in all the sad moments of the day to the setting sun,

Dusk is the beginning to a new dawn.

Holding a book in your hand and jamming to your favourite band.

The wind flowing through your hair and kissing your cheeks,

The atmosphere making you romantically weak.

Post the setting sun many beautiful things can be done.

 

 

Homophobia

The fear of homosexuals and the people of the LGBTQ community.

Why are you scared of the LGBTQ? Are they going to harm you? Eat you? Force you to become like them? No right. Then why hate them or stay arms away, shu them away and discriminate them. Aren’t they the same as you expect different in their sexual preference? They have the same personality and have the same good/ bad traits in them. The sexual preference wouldn’t affect their job levels and effort they put into something they do. Their talent isn’t determined by the pronouns they use or whom they choose their partner to be. People hate them to an extent they protest against them from living by doing this you are just spoiling that person’s life.

The only thing wrong with being gay is how some people treat you when they find out. – anonymous

Isn’t it true people who find out will Ill- treat you and cast you out. Treat you differently as of it is some mental illness or something. IT AIN’T.

Homophobic propel should literally understand that let people love whom they want, for their productivity levels won’t change.

Remember that your daughter/son/ trans child would always be the same loving person to you and help you and will be there with you when you need them in times of help. Love them too and support them before the homophobes start killing them with words and actions.